Friday, July 31, 2009

Thanks But No Thanks? Nice.

Had an interesting interaction with someone today. This person emailed me a link to a Batti Batti video to check out how the singer incorporates acting into the performance. I replied with a thank you and included a link to a version that I particularly enjoy. The person's response:

I have seen so many productions of this I really do not need another video thanks.

Is it just me, or is that strange? Why not just say thanks, or not say anything? Just curious.

It came right after another strange (ok, sarcastic) comment, for which the person later apologized. And a few weeks ago this person did something very similar regarding my blog entry about Lucretia. We were both commenting on a mutual friend's link to a review because we both saw the performance. She then sent me a friend request on Facebook. I mentioned the blog and she said something like, I'll pass, thanks. That's strange too, right? It's almost as if she's saying, "Listen to what I have to say but I'm not interested in what you have to say."

On the other hand, she was very nice to give me advice and recommend a video, so who knows. Focus on the niceness. Focusing... focusing...

Ah well. People are weird. I'm sure there are people out there who think I'm socially inept or whatever. Actually I know there are people out there who think I'm "whatever." Ahhhh there is so much I want to put here in the blog about ... something... but I won't. Niceness... focusing... on... the niceness... because, after all, it's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice. That's not weird... is it?


Susan Eichhorn-Young said...

"nice" is beige...!!! There's no color in it and not depth. There is always motivation of some kind behind anybody's "suggestions". It's never to be "nice". That doesn't mean it has to be a negative thing either - but always something!!

I think you are very brave to put up your Batti Batti and kudos for that! Brave because you leave yourself vulnerable for all kinds of anonymous comments from internet creatures and that isn't easy to deal with sometimes! Here's the difference that I see: you posted this FOR A REASON. You are using the recording as a tool and learning from it. I think that's huge! I haven't listened yet - I have watched it without sound though. I see a huge development in how you hold yourself while you sing from another clip you posted a few months ago. So Brava!!! Keep discovering!

Susan said...

Yes... you're right! About all of it!

We all have our own experiences and biases (ok, baggage) that influence how we interact with others. And then the others have their own baggage that influences how they interpret and react. Geez how does anyone ever get along? Ha!

Thank you for your assessment and for saying I'm brave. Other people have said so too. I don't feel brave - I feel like an idiot most of the time. But I post it anyway, go figure. No need to listen...

I posted the video not only as a personal tool but also because I'm sharing my journey here on the blog with anon and non-anon friends and readers. My blog is like a good friend - I jump up and down with excitement with it, pound the keys with frustration and also use it as a sounding board. It's a tool in itself, especially since I don't really have anyone In Real Life who I can do all this with... Oh and of course the blog has no baggage, doesn't get bored of me typing the same thing over and over and it reminds me how far I've come!

Thank you so much for your encouragement - it means a LOT to me.